A story for everybody – Apology Ceremony

Late 30s couple were surprised that their 5 years old son walked back home from kindergarten (6 houses away) after school, obviously, the school was to be blamed for the safety ignorance. With the hot steam sizzling out from the wife's head, she dragged her son walked marching angrily towards the school, and the school principal get these types " #% % ^&&@ $+ $# " of complaint, the last few sentences ended clearly with “ You people don’ t know who my husband was, he will not let anyone of you at large, you will be sorry for it !!”.

An apology was needed for the negligence act. The principal & her husband were requested to come forward for the apology "ceremony", auspicious day & time were chosen from the 'Tong Shu' book (Chinese Almanacs), the principal needs to provide mandarin oranges, red cloth, Kim hua' (praying ornament) and ‘ang pow’ (red packet) for the ceremony, the apology will have to make towards the 5 years old boy, not the parent.

This had become the hot talk in our Taman (housing area), lots of caring and concerned friends, neighbors, Mee seller aunties and kuih seller uncle chip in their opinions, lawyers were consulted to give professional view. 2 weeks later, the couple changed their mind and agreed to waive all the requirements except the apology & mandarin oranges.

The story ended with the couple stop their kids from schooling in the kindergarten. The principal had her school security beef up. And I had my little L study in the same school with better security and safer environment.

Jurassic Park …the other version

The yelling, shouting & scolding went on like alarm trigger me every nigh from 9 – 11 pm, Mon – Fri, the poor little boy (6 ~ 7 yrs old) was begging & crying in pain, the smacking sound were clearly heard from the opposite house of mine.

His mother has transformed into dinosaur again, grrrrrraaa….. little boy was scared, crying & running away… dinosaur was holding a school book with a cane on the other hand, grrrrrraaa…. grapping the plastic chair and here goes the hurling all her dismay on the poor school work performance.

I was once wish to become a witch, zoom in with my broom stick, waive my magic wand and turn both them into 2 rabbits, from there on they shall live peacefully & happily together.

I have attended several parenting courses, and most course leaders don’t encourage in hitting, whacking & spanking. in return, they suggested to use alternative non violent methods of child discipline, and manage with an ultimate goal of mutual respect between parent & child.

You may say the expert say nia.... not easy ler, my kid is hyper active, super active, naughty lah, bla, bla, bla... the list went on for 2 full A4 paper.

Fews methods that are not new but effective if the parents do it corrently:-

1. Time up
2. Write sentences to remind him of how he should behave
3. Remove privileges (TV, Playstation, computer games, reduce pocket money, ride bike, stay up late, go outside and play, etc)


To carry out the punishment, the parents need to be patient, consistent, determination & stay firm. Need to give a friendly reasoning before the punishment. After which thank the kid for their co-operation.

Try it by doing a bit differencw and you will get difference outcome, see the result, where no shouting and scolding are needed.